Dating for Young Adults With Disabilities in Los Angeles

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Their emphasis is on maintaining a positive web atmosphere for their members in a secure environment. In addition to disability dating tips and advice articles, the Disabled Dating World section includes information and reviews of websites providing services for persons with a disability seeking friendship, love, and romance through online disabled personals. I think people with disabilities get a bum rap from most people.

Disabled Dating

Since that post, my relationship has done just that, and I have spent some time thinking about dating and disability. Online dating has made it easier for people in general to meet each other. However, living in this day and age of online connections, a double-edge sword presents itself every day — the ability to be more socially connected or to be more lonely. As such, they can find and connect with a vast audience that is extremely diverse. Nowadays, people could meet each other in ways not possible a decade ago and in some instances, the internet can be the only way for certain people to meet. Online connection however doesn't always meet our social needs or ward off loneliness. Learning to love oneself is a lifelong journey after all. Of course, there can always be a combination of social engagement and loneliness at the same time, especially for people with disabilities, who are often socially marginalized from their peers who don't have disabilities, or even from each other. There may be more social inclusion and acceptance through online connection today, but isolation, suspicion of and stigmatization against people with disabilities is still a problem throughout society. Soon after we connected, I proceeded to totally ignore her for a week when I went on a meditation retreat. You know, just how all the dating guide books tell you a great relationship should start! At the beginning of a new relationship there is hope that the other person will accept, understand, like, and maybe even love us; the hope that they will turn out to be who we want them to be in terms of sharing our values, sense of humor, ways to spend time, etc. There are fears that neither of us will live up to these hopes. There is the expectation that we'll give each other a fair shot at finding out if we're a good match. This is a time of exploring our differences and the things we share in common. How does disability impact this? When one partner has a disability and the other does not, which is the case for Amber and me, things can get very interesting: especially considering that we will probably have to contend with, at one point or another, not only what we are learning and feeling about each other; but with opinions and questions from others that will make us cringe. Questions about my voice will undoubtedly come up and some people will stare. Although it hasn't happened yet, friends might ask Amber why she's with me because in their opinion, she could do so much better. While this may be a common experience for anyone becoming a new couple who endures criticism of their partner from friends and family, it can be magnified for people with disabilities, who are often judged on things besides their character, values and other traits that might make them good partners. Disability is an easy target as the deciding factor of the potential success or failure of a relationship, most often failure. These things may or may not happen, but I have faith that if two people have inner strength, level heads about them and good communication between them, then love has a chance to endure. Cary and Melissa Cary and Melissa are a testament to the idea of steadfast dedication in a relationship. They have been together for two years, and from them I have learned that each phase of a relationship has its ups and downs. Several years ago, I met Cary at American University in Washington, D. We met in class when the teacher pointed us out to each other and the fact that we both had Cerebral Palsy — in front of the entire class. While that introduction was an unsavory experience, it sparked a lifelong friendship. He and I shared many things in common besides our Cerebral Palsy, chief among them our fondness for music — and our dating woes. We always seemed to get led on by women, only to get our hopes dashed for a genuine connection. People with disabilities, however, are often more easily dismissed. Cary had a number of short relationships that ended in frustration and heartbreak before he met Melissa, who had gone through similar experiences. Melissa did not have a disability, but like Cary, longed for a real and meaningful connection. They met online through a dating site and started talking. Cary mentioned on his profile that he had Cerebral Palsy and Melissa, who had no idea what that was, looked it up. She was curious about him, having been attracted to his sense of humor, and decided to take a chance by meeting him in person. That was over two years ago. Things are not always easy for Cary and Melissa. Sometimes when they are out, they experience stigma and downright discrimination. The Disability Factor The dating dilemma that many people with disabilities find themselves in, more often than not, is that they are not given a chance to date. People without disabilities are simply not open to it. In some ways I understand the notion behind the fear of dating someone with a disability. There's the common misconception that the partner without a disability will end up being a caregiver more than an equal partner, and the view that disability is a weakness rather than a strength. A former partner of mine said that she thought that women were probably intimidated by my disability and what it implied about my needs as a partner, and that they did not know how to get past their fearful reaction. Having a disability should not be a deterrent to emotional connection, especially in the romantic sense. A person with a disability might want to date someone who also has a disability, for reasons such as mutual attraction and shared understanding. Or they might want to date someone who does not have a disability for the same or other reasons. The common assumption that two people should date because they both have disabilities, or that they are dating because they both have disabilities, is very annoying. It's like assuming that two people who are tall, for example, should date or are dating because they are tall. A person with a disability should have the freedom to date whomever they chose — and experience the same risks of heartbreak and love and everything in between — just like everyone else. To be desired and to feel loved is one of the cornerstones of what it means to be human, and it should be available to everyone, regardless of difference, be it an accent, walking style, learning style or something else. Humans have had this very unhealthy obsession with sameness for far too long, and any difference has been met with fear and has been demonized as a result. Yes, to be in a relationship with someone with a disability requires taking a chance and giving that person a chance. But the same is true in regards to any relationship. Dating someone with a disability may or may not have more, or maybe different challenges, but that does not make the relationship or the partner any less worthy of taking a risk and trying to make a meaningful connection. It takes strong people to look beyond disability, and to have the emotional fortitude to look within to see that we all have talents, limitations and the ability to offer love.

Otherwise, keep reading to learn a few basic dating tips and read summaries of four disability-friendly dating websites. Get started on the journey to finding and meeting new people. Our members are from all walks of life, with varied backgrounds and interests. There are several disabled singles websites that are free to join. The next day she sent me a message apologizing for coming on so strong and said she wanted to get to know me a bit better. Things are not always easy for Cary and Melissa. Still, we had a great conversation and exchanged contact info. Personal identities are not shared unless site members choose to offer the information with other users.